Headlines toted ‘Rob Karsdahian Shares Blac Chyna Nudes’.

There is nothing shocking there. The only advice I would give Rob is to grow up.

Rob Kardashian’s ex-fiancée, Blac Chyna, is considering taking legal action after Kardashian posted several explicit photos of her on Instagram Wednesday.

Chyna’s attorney Walter Mosley told People magazine, “I am exploring all legal remedies and protections available to my client at this time in attempts to best advise her on how she may want to proceed.”

The truth of the matter is people need to stop taking nudes and sending them. Those who have the nudes need to keep them to themselves.

It brings up the following two ideas:

1- Virtual Reality vs. Actual Reality. So-called virtual reality is an ever-present aspect of all forms of cyber-culture. Once they log on to Facebook or Twitter, some people have a tendency to slip into a different psychological “zone.” Without even realizing it, they can assume the attitude of another person living a “parallel life” in a “parallel world. Social media messages are awful. Instagram vids sent for no reason, other than to make someone angry is silly.

2-Voyeurism, Exhibitionism, and Narcissism. When users have the luxury of hiding behind an assumed identity or a veil of anonymity, the effect in some instances and with some personalities is to encourage a sense of license. This can lead to all kinds of unsavory online social behaviors, including “stalking,” spying, unwarranted boasting, deception, misrepresentation of facts, and self-promotion.

Rob needs to immediately stop torturing himself by comparing his life with everyone else’s positively biased representations of theirs. Seek to improve his own life in a realistic manner. Choose to look at the positives and to celebrate his wins… as well as theirs.

He can also stop dating poisonous people.  In his desperation to want a package he is likely missing the great chances of normal girls. A mature woman does not use her sexuality to make a point.

Because social media moves so quickly and the world seems to demand an immediate response, people feel the need for instantaneous and often wrong-headed reactions.People don’t give themselves time to think, possibly feeling that delay will make them irrelevant.

Rob’s actions make sense. Social media isn’t going away, but think before you respond or react to a story, an email or a tweet. Think of consequences, think of alternatives, and think about whether what you say will hurt someone and whether they deserve that hurt.