For most families, a good portion of the holidays is spent around the dinner table with friends and relatives who may or may not be on their best behavior and may, if left untended, insist on turning the holiday table into their own political soapboxes. But, according to author Robb Lucy, a little planning can help people avoid standing helplessly by as their dinner table devolves into a political battlefield.
In fact, Lucy maintains, there is a way to turn this year’s Thanksgiving, Christmas, and Hanukkah dinners into priceless opportunities for laugher, listening and learning new things about friends and family members.
As a former CBC journalist and the author of How Will You Be Remembered: A Guide to Creating and Enjoying Your Legacies Now, Lucy can share his unique concept of taking the time to really get to know the stories of the people with whom you share a table—no matter how young or old they are—by asking them the right questions. “No one is forced to answer the questions and some will just choose to listen,” Lucy says. “But all of these questions knead the dough and raise the awareness that we need to collect our family stories, which become legacy stories that are passed down to our descendants.”
An animated storyteller, Lucy can share:
- Some of the questions to ask guests. (You may, for instance, ask them to describe an event, a book, or a person that affected them).
- How to get people to buy in to the concept.
- The goal: Getting to know each other better… to tell our stories… to become closer to each other and to recognize and give thanks that we can talk openly and safely, and love the process.
- True stories of how asking these questions led to greater understanding of family members.
- Tips on creating living legacies that will be enjoyed for decades to come.