Orethapedia

Permissive– (adjective)-allowing or characterized by great or excessive freedom of behavior.

Bobbi Kristina, the only child of Whitney Houston and Bobby Brown died yesterday at the age of 22. She is one more young person added to the “died too soon”category. We have all see them.  Unfortunately, she was the victim of permissive parenting and guidance. We watched a young  woman struggling. The television reality show “The Houstons: On Our Own“aptly showed that they could have been and should have been stronger with her.

Where was  her structure? Yes, she was an adult. Yes, she had some emotional issues. Having said all that where was her support system? Having lost a mother myself,  understand how traumatic that it is. It leaves a scar on your soul that  will always itch and tell the weather, like an old athletic injury. Her spiritual and emotional psyche was damaged.  The seasoned people around her should have grabbed a hold of her hand and fought for her. 

She came from permissiveness in her house. We watched that on the short lived ‘Being Bobbby Brown’. We heard the heart-wrenching confession from her mother of addiction hell while Bobbi Kristina was young.

Take a look at the symptoms below:

Permissive parenting means:

• Have few rules or standards of behavior
• When there are rules, they are often very inconsistent
• Are usually very nurturing and loving towards their kids
• Often seem more like a friend, rather than a parent.
• May use bribery such as toys, gifts and food as a means to get child to behave

Children raised by permissive parents have these issues:

• Lack self-discipline
• Sometimes have poor social skills
• May be self-involved and demanding
• May feel insecure due to the lack of boundaries and guidance

Some parents themselves, were raised by authoritarian parents that were overly controlling and take extremely opposing measures in raising their own children. Some just have an exceptionally laid back attitude and take a haphazard approach to parenting. Structure is not high on their list of importance. They feel any form of discipline or laying down rules and restrictions will only upset the apple cart, so why bother, let them do as they please.

Bobbi Kristina, lived a life of excess. It was obvious from the interviews that she did that after her mother’s death. Take a look:

Where was her “Brittany Spears” like intervention that stopped that young lady from moving in with Nick?  Where was her conservatorship. Hillary Clinton loved to say, “It takes a village to raise a child.” Where were her villagers? Now, a young lady lies cold and still, the result of a mysterious accident. Monday morning quarterbacking doesn’t win a game, but she would has at least been on the bench if she had a coach.

We, the village have to know when to close in ranks around a youngling. It is a skill that was owned by the many before us. There were many who could have reshaped this. The true question is why didn’t they move faster?Parenting doesn’t end when a child turns 18 or moves out. Instead, it  transitions into a new relationship that trusts that the child has learned while growing up and now knows enough to make the right choices.  Her village failed her, when they didn’t put legal safe holds a-la Brittany Spears into her life.

What a sad unnecessary tragedy.