The new season of Shahs of Sunset opened up on a hot topic. Season 6 opened with talks of babies, engagements, and scandals, of course. The cast focuses on the Persian culture and their career and personal moves.
Asa Soltan Rahmati – Asa is pregnant by boyfriend and baby daddy Jermaine Jackson II. Viewers may wonder who this man is because Asa has previously chosen to keep her life with him private, away from the spotlight. When it comes to Asa, NBC’s press release reads:
Asa is thrilled to share the news with her friends that she and her longtime boyfriend are expecting their “miracle” baby. But when her announcement is met with questions and they begin to cast doubt on her claims, her position in the group is jeopardized.
Somewhere around 2000, the country quietly underwent a profound shift: women, driven largely by “middle-American”* women, began putting the baby carriage before marriage.
In fact, for women on the whole, the age of first birth is now 25.7 while the age at first marriage is 26.5.
In some cases, bringing a baby into the world brings couples closer together. Still, pregnancy creates a disruption in the relationship, so you can’t expect you and your partner to be ready to tie the knot just because you’re expecting. An arrangement that was fun and easy-going before the stick turned pink could quickly feel forced and estranged.
When pregnancy comes before marriage, it can sometimes pressure the couple into getting married, or just speed up the decision of marriage, for the sake of the child. This may or may not be a bad thing, depending on the commitment of the couple and their willingness to work on the marriage relationship and also rear the child together. However, marriage should be a commitment separate from pregnancy. For two people to consider if they should officially spend their lives together, they should do so without pressure from outside forces. They should marry because they love each other, not because they feel they are supposed to. A marriage that feels forced could later end if the couple resents the hurried and pressured commitment.
Many studies have been done that show children born outside of marriage face several risk factors. According to the Urban Institute’s study of Marriage and the Economic Well-Being of Families with Children, children who are born outside of marriage face elevated risk of falling into poverty. With just the woman supporting the child, for example, while trying to care for herself during pregnancy, and then for the newborn and growing child, the woman is more likely to have to drop out of education and take a lesser paying job, and therefore be more likely to live in poverty. Rising above that can be difficult. Also, according to an article in Journal of Marriage and the Family (in 2004), children born to cohabiting—but not married—parents are more likely to face not only socioeconomic disadvantage, but also deal with more behavioral and emotional issues than children born to married parents.
Just some food for thought. We will see how this plays out.