One book in particular from Ava Miles’ new “Goddess Guides” series — “Goddesses Deserve the Gs: Relinking Self-Worth with Material Abundance” — deals with topics of women in the workplace. Having experienced inappropriate sexual advances herself in her professional life, international bestselling author Ava Miles speaks out in response to the alleged Harvey Weinstein sexual misconduct, offering her thoughts and tips.
“When women follow the dream of their profession and there’s a powerful man and a system in place to perpetuate the old story/reality that a woman has to trade sex for what she wants, this is extremely tragic,” says Ava. “The Weinsten situation is all the more disturbing because there was a machine in place to both enable his behavior and punish people if they spoke up or said no.”
For example, Ava offers tips for how to handle it if a male colleague asks a woman to meet in his hotel room for a meeting while on a work trip:
“That’s an uncomfortable place for anybody, even if it’s a suite,” says Ava, “so there are ways to diffuse that.”
1. You can say you’d rather meet in a bar or restaurant. Say you’d like to get a beverage and you don’t want to do room service, and that you’ll meet them there.
2. Book a conference room, whether in advance of the trip or in response to the request. This requires, of course, that you’re authorized to make that company expenditure. Book it then let him know you’d like to meet there.
3. The goal is to create a situation where you are calling the shots. If you go to a man’s hotel room, unless it is someone you implicitly trust, you are potentially putting yourself in a position of unnecessary vulnerability.
“The message the Harvey Weinstein scandal sends to women is dangerous and damaging because it demonstrates the price of going after your dream and the cost if you have self worth and refuse,” says Ava. “It demonstrates how ill equipped we are as women to both express our truth (either saying no or reporting the crime) and to handle situations like this and still maintain our dream/profession with our reputations intact. Fear and punishment are running the day. We women need to have courage and faith that we will be heard. We need to demand it if necessary through the law. And then we need to teach it to other women since this reality doesn’t seem to be going away.”