April is National Sexual Assault and Abuse Awareness Month.
It’s important to remember that what you’re experiencing is a normal reaction to trauma. Your feelings of helplessness, shame, defectiveness, and self-blame are symptoms, not reality. No matter how difficult it may seem, with these tips and techniques, you can come to terms with what happened, regain your sense of safety and trust, and learn to heal and move on with your life.
If no one has told you the following things please read and share.
Dispelling the toxic, victim-blaming myths about sexual violence can help you start the healing process.
Myths and facts about rape and sexual assault |
Myth: You can spot a rapist by the way he looks or acts. Fact: There’s no surefire way to identify a rapist. Many appear completely normal, friendly, charming, and non-threatening. |
Myth: If you didn’t fight back, you must not have thought it was that bad. Fact: During a sexual assault, it’s extremely common to freeze. Your brain and body shuts down in shock, making it difficult to move, speak, or think. |
Myth: People who are raped “ask for it” by the way they dress or act. Fact: Rape is a crime of opportunity. Studies show that rapists choose victims based on their vulnerability, not on how sexy they appear or how flirtatious they are. |
Myth: Date rape is often a misunderstanding. Fact: Date rapists often defend themselves by claiming the assault was a drunken mistake or miscommunication. But research shows that the vast majority of date rapists are repeat offenders. These men target vulnerable people and often ply them with alcohol in order to rape them. |
Myth: It’s not rape if you’ve had sex with the person before. Fact: Just because you’ve previously consented to sex with someone doesn’t give them perpetual rights to your body. If your spouse, boyfriend, or lover forces sex against your will, it’s rape. |
Please use these contacts.
- National Sexual Assault Hotline: a service of RAINN
- Online chat hotline
- Spanish online chat hotline
- Telephone hotline: 800-656-HOPE (4673)
- National Helpline for Male Survivors: a service of 1in6
- National Street Harassment Hotline: a service of Stop Street Harassment
- Online chat hotline
- Telephone hotline: 855.897.5910
- DoD Safe Helpline: a service for members of the U.S. military and their families, operated by RAINN for the Department of Defense
- Online chat hotline
- Telephone hotline: 877.995.5247
Domestic and Dating Violence
- National Domestic Violence Hotline
- Online chat hotline
- Telephone hotline: 800.799.SAFE
- Love is Respect: a service of the National Domestic Violence Hotline
- Online chat hotline
- Telephone hotline: 866.331.9474
Other Victims of Crime
- VictimConnect: A service of the National Center for Victims of Crime, for all crime victims
- Online chat hotline
- Telephone hotline: 855.4.VICTIM (84-2846)
- National Human Trafficking Hotline: a service of Polaris
- Online chat hotline
- Telephone hotline: 888.373.7888
- National Center for Missing and Exploited Children
- Telephone hotline: 800.THE.LOST (843-5678)
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