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Bill Cosby’s Attorney Monique Pressley said this morning on Good Morning America, that there were many things  that happened at a time “disco biscuits” aka qualudes were normal. Where is this normal?

A letter from Cosby’s attorney Martin Singer last fall  categorically denied the claims  by model Janice Dickenson and cautioning “in the strongest possible terms” against repeating her story, which Singer called “an outrageous defamatory lie.”

We have become a society where whether we are black or white, money and status guarantee that we are permissive in bad behavior. Cosby’s  case surrounds a deposition that contained damaging information about unsavory behavior. Behavior influenced by the fact that he had money and power, and a perceived bit of control. These women were in his presence with trust because they believed that he was an emblem of decency. I cannot accept that because he was “down with the cool kids”  that qualudes was an okay thing to offer. Yes, I am aware that this was at the height of social drug use inthe 1970’s and 1980’s.

I strongly disagree that monetary and professional status dictates a “pick and choose” menu of personal behavior. It is the belief that once presented with a smorgasbord you have no ability to control yourself. It has become hallmark that if you are successful, and have money you are entitled to be promiscuous and irresponsible and unfaithful. That’s 100% unacceptable.

It’s even more unacceptable for African Americans, due to the fact that one check point of purchasing  slaves  was whether or not he/she could be a “good buck” or a “good breeder”.

We have thoroughly crossed the threshold where over the edge behavior is acceptable because it is group think. That is the problem with Bill Cosby’s story. Just the little bit that you read and the voice of his lawyers, all make it seem that acting the way he did because “others were doing it”  is acceptable. Do you remember what your mother said about what happened when you followed your friends off a bridge? .  After all, isn’t that what Cosby cast mate Phillips ?

He said:

When I say common knowledge, I mean that it was just something that people seemed to know without anyone saying anything. Bill sleeping around was a “fact” that, like, the air, seemed to just be.

This was a married man. Why was it okay that a married man sleep around? Bill was engaged in risky behavior. It was unsavory.  His lawyers cannot clean that up. There is no restoration to the fact that 40 women have come forward to say that there was something unseemly going on.People cheat because they feel entitled to. Cheaters are 100 percent responsible for their decision to cheat.They cheat because they value the good feelings they get from ego boosts and affair sex more than their commitment to you and your health and well-being. People cheat because they’re selfish. PERIOD.

Once again I ask, why are we making any excuse for his behavior?