Stop giving more to individuals who give back nothing. Many of us spend a lot of time and energy pursuing relationships with the wrong people. We invest time in working overtime to keep someone that we should actually be letting go of. Folks hear the phrases ‘give’ and ‘take’ and just run with them with a misguided idea that they will solve everything.
They’re not being attentive? Show more attention. There are no steps to commit? Hand over everything you’ve got and then some. The person shows they’re not interested? Give him plenty of your energy as you keep pursuing.
Available Vs Unavailable
Women who pursue emotionally unavailable men are classic examples of women who have far too much emotion to give to the wrong people. Misguidedly there is a belief that if you show just how much you care that he will realize that you are the right woman and miraculously become available. Trust me when I say that you have more chance of walking on water.
For the women who give too much, this is the reality: When you keep giving and giving and are always there, despite the fact that he has only one foot in the relationship or doesn’t want what you have to offer
He thinks ‘CAN’T SHE SEE I’M NOT INTERESTED?! CAN’T SHE SEE THAT I’M NOT THE ONE FOR HER? CAN’T SHE TAKE A HINT? WHAT DOES IT TAKE FOR HER TO GET THE MESSAGE’.
Not really very nice is it?
Yes, these guys could just say that but that would require them to have balls and not fear confrontation. Let’ be truthful: How many of us have suffered with the following:
I’m Hearing Him But I’m Not Listening syndrome?
With some people, it doesn’t matter what the person says, they will still be there as sure as the sky will be above your heads. The type of guy that gets swept up in things because he doesn’t have the guts to bring about the type of conversation that might lead to a confrontation, eventually just ‘succumbs’ to what is happening. The reality is that both parties end up miserable in the end because in a situation like this, neither party is getting what they want Don’t keep throwing everything plus the kitchen sink at individuals that don’t deserve you because the reality is that they will NEVER appreciate it and you deserve better.
Here is where you draw the line.
DECEIT and DISRESPECT
White lies are one thing, but deliberately deceiving your partner is a serious offense. Hiding money from your spouse. Creating secondary lives. Omission is lying. Lies break trust. If your partner has lied or hidden something from you to you about something significant or has continuously lied to you about a number of things.Pathological liars are particularly harmful partners. Prolonged exposure to lies and gas-lighting can make the sanest person turn crazy. Being continually disrespected is something you should never tolerate, especially from someone who professed to love and care for you.
If someone doesn’t respect you, it means they don’t value you. It means every decision they make will revolve around their own happiness, not yours.
It’s true that a relationship isn’t always rainbows and sunshine. But if you find yourself more sad than happy, then there’s seriously something wrong. A relationship should add something to your life—be it color, passion, growth, motivation, or all of it. Otherwise, what’s the point?
So the first and most important tip is to be honest with yourself, and if you think you don’t love and respect yourself enough, it’s time to change your mindset.
In other words stop. You owe yourself more than you are getting. Stop allowing guilt and some sense of responsibility ruin you. It may just be time.